Internet dating at times is too complicated for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via social networks, many singles still realize its an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
They will therefore resort to finding an individual and thousand excuses to justify their failures, certainly not the least is: shortage of time. Resorting to dating services can be one way to not take responsibility for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my bottom responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
But is it genuinely so? Is it really a lack of time that inhibits them from finding the right person? Or could it be that even when these meet a potential partner many singles just have no idea of how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be oftentimes unaware of the many ways in which that they sabotage their attempts in intimacy?
It is as if meeting “the right person” stays only some dream. Many singles resort to hiring personal motorcoaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of complimenting them with the “right” man, convincing themselves that they are merely too busy to look, look and find.
Accordingly, it makes no improvement on how many dates they’re going and how many relationships these attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple rationale that they just never take time to understand what they do which harms their attempts.
Self-Awareness might be the only road you haven’t taken to date in your attempts to find a partner with whom to develop a thriving intimacy. Paradoxically enough, could potentially be the only road which can have your there.
May well these be unrealistic outlook and fantasies about companions and relationships which travel you to expect the impossible (and blame your companions time and again)? May well this be your conception of reality, being won over that “your way” in thinking, feeling and working on things is always “the right way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Time and again I find singles who, without also knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in associations. Being unaware of doing so, they do not know what they need to change to be able to succeed next time around.
It is when you ask yourself these – and also other – questions; when you look inwards and observe yourself; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have got exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think how you approach partners and relationships.
Taking guilt for your success or catastrophe at relationships is a vital to making a significant switch leading to success. It is as long as you take responsibility and become truly motivated to understand, definately, what hinders your efforts that you embark on the road to success.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become aware of a host of factors which drive you to fail in the relationships. Could it be your attitudes towards the other sex? Could these be your fearfulness and needs which get you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized from a young age about how associations “should” look like – messages which now, as any, come back to haunt you?